Recently a few friends and I were talking about punishment in our dynamics. One does the military dress down type, the other does what I call the school room punishment. I on the other hand do the old fashion type, corporal. I explained it’s not what I’d like to do and in the past I’ve done a combination of both (stated above). But that doesn’t work in our dynami.,It was difficult for me to use this kind of punishment having grown up, hearing “I’m beating you because I love you.” I always thought if you loved me why not buy me some ice cream? But when one is young growing up in a West Indian home the strap was the way. It worked on most of us, one time was enough to make us straighten up and fly right. And I have to admit, that it wasn’t until much later that I would move into knowing the consequences and do a thing any way.
These many years later I am conflicted on punishing my slave. Early on in our conversations she had told me this is what works for her. I remember thinking maybe I can get around that? In the beginning tried, I would have long conversations about what was not acceptable. Realizing that I would have to use the belt. Every time I have to punish her(which is not often) I remember the one and only time my father beat me with a belt. Afterwards, he cried. I never gave my father a reason to do that again, it hurt me more then he would know to see him like that.
Many may think punishment is only being done to the slave, in our house it’s done to the both of us.
I love my slave and although it pains me, it would be a crime to our dynamic not to punish her to get her back on track.
Even if I cry afterwards inside