Friends, i know a lot of us were deeply moved by the loss of Brandon, kaya’s beautiful son. Many of us felt helpless to do anything to help, had no words, and didn’t know what we could do. i’m asking everyone to take a moment, read through this blog in it’s entirety, and write a victim impact statement. All of us who know Brandon through kaya can write about how this has effected her and her family.
First, some important thoughts:
i found out about this opportunity via being her facebook friend and spent a few days considering every possible angle before contacting kaya directly to ask her explicit permission to contribute letters and every single idea i could think of, below. She has agreed and we have gone over this list of additional notes i’m adding here, together. The last thing i want is any unintended consequences for her or her family.
With that thought in mind,
*please use kaya’s legal name, Teresa.
*please do not link back to your kink blog in any way. Her bio family may read her other blog and do not need to know how we know her. i have kaya’s permission to share her site dearbrandonlovemom.com
*please avoid profane language.
*let’s keep the focus on kaya and her family, be respectful, and the compassionate people i know you are.
*i have a very small readership. However, some of my friends here have a huge readership and you have kaya’s (Teresa) permission to share the link to her blog and this post to your own blog. Again, please be discreet and don’t add her dearbrandonlovemom.com to your blogs you recommend, change the content of her message in any manner, or do anything which connects kink to her new blog.
*kaya (Teresa) will have the copies of all of the letters and can decide what she wants to forward to the court. This will matter now and going forward, as letters can be reviewed by parole boards over time. Numbers count here. Not to mention, one of the biggest fears kaya has talked about is the fear her son’s beautiful memory will be lost over time. Let’s remind her that this will not happen, with letters that can be used for court and kept by her for years to come.
*kaya’s Master’s name is Scott. Please double check for any accidental words in your letter (Master, slave, cunt).
*If you do share in your blog, i’m asking that you email kaya (Teresa) at the email provided in the body of the message, so she is aware and can read what you wrote for herself.
*please close the letter with your actual name. For printing purposes, it may be easier for kaya to send the letter as an attachment, saving if it in a format that will not matter if the person printing it is using a mac or pc.
*Finally, please say a prayer or meditation or whatever your spiritual or well wishes may be for kaya (Teresa) and her family. They are also dealing with hurricane Harvey, seem to have gone through the worst of it, but it has obviously been highly stressful. They kept electric and have food and water. i asked about a gofundme page to help with any costs that may have been done during this to their home, but there isn’t one to date.
Under this line is kaya’s (Teresa’s) message. Should you choose to reblog, please do not alter the message in any manner.
For those of you wanting to write an impact letter before the sentencing of Brandon‘s killer, here’s some information I have:
Please send the letters to me directly. You can email them to tesskobs(at)gmail(dot)com, or if you would prefer to mail a hard copy, contact myself, Scott, Jessa, or Jack for our mailing address. I want them for two reasons. One, I can print them all and mail them priority in bulk so I know they got them and got them on time, and two, I would like a copy of them to keep for myself. It’s helpful to me to know how much Brandon meant to people and how loved he was.
Please put “Impact Statement” in the email subject line so I don’t miss it, and if I don’t reply to you within a few days, resend in case I didn’t get it.
If, for personal reasons, you don’t want us to read your letter, please contact me for a direct mailing address to the victim’s advocate in Marquette County.
I need the letters no later than October 1st. That gives me time to print them and mail them before October 7th. The deadline is October 9th. So please please be mindful of the mailing time.
If you know of anyone who wants to write a letter but is unlikely to see this post, please let them know. The more letters the better. Brandon lived, Brandon mattered, and we are his voice now.
Be aware that the killer also receives a copy of your letter. So don’t include any personal information that you don’t want him to have. (Address, phone number, email address, etc.) You don’t want to leave any way for him to contact you from prison.
Some helpful tips for writing your VIS (Victim Impact Statement):
• don’t describe the crime more than what is necessary to explain how it affected you
(the judge or magistrate already knows about the crime)
• don’t say what sentence you think the offender should get or what should happen to them
(this is the judge or magistrate’s decision)
• don’t mention crimes the offender may have committed in the past
(the judge or magistrate already knows about the offender’s criminal record, and is only sentencing
the offender for the current crime)
• don’t give your opinion about the chance of the offender committing other crimes in the future
• don’t give your opinion about the offender’s ability to change their ways
• don’t give your opinion about the personality or character of the offender. Don’t threaten or abuse the offender, or say what you hope happens to him in prison
• don’t mention how the crime has affected other people
(except if you are making a VIS on behalf of someone else)
• don’t mention other documents that you haven’t attached to your VIS, or that weren’t part of
the court case
• don’t use inappropriate or offensive language.
The most important thing to remember is your VIS should only be about how you’ve been affected by the crime.
Some helpful links: